My father was abusive and it set the tone for my childhood. It paved the way for me to be in codependent relationships where I was never fully living for myself. Ultimately this cost me my happiness, peace of mind, and serenity.
My reality check came blaring at 24 years old. Sort of the way your dog looks at you when it wants to eat breakfast. I was in an abusive relationship and I was tired of living a life of self-doubt, unworthiness and not being enough. I saw two paths shining brightly upon my face: continue living a lonely life of unworthiness or live fearlessly with self love and purpose.
Feeling stuck, I embarked upon a solo trip 5,000 miles away to gain clarity. My thoughts were like a game of tug of war. My mind wanted me to take the familiar road even if it was dangerous, but my gut roared against it.
Sitting in the Wicklow Mountains a small voice told me that I would be ok and to leave this relationship. In that moment I said out loud, “Carla you are too valuable and you can no longer do this to yourself”. Through trusting in the universe that I was not alone in this journey, I chose the path of self love and purpose.
Today I live the life of the confident warrior: unstoppable, unapologetic, and in full control of my own happiness. I no longer use exteriors to fill the blank space because I am enough just as I am. The confident warrior was always there inside me, I just needed to reach for her and when I did, my world transformed into pure self love and purpose.
So Now What?
Today I am a certified life coach who helps women go from stuck and stagnant to confident warriors so they can live fearlessly and in control of their lives.
I am a women’s transformational certified coach, motivational speaker, activist and sister.